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Arvid Berg's avatar

A wonderful essay!

I work as a teacher's assistant in elementary school and I have felt a creeping existential dread in regards to social media for a long time now. Despite most kids in 4th grade and above having their own phone, I have yet to see single child with anything close to a net positive relationship to social media. It's ALL poison for their development and overall happiness.

I often hear parents say they gave their kid a smarthone because they were worried about their kid being "left out" or teased if they didn't have one. But my experience is the complete opposite. The kids who are the most online are also the ones who have the most difficulty socializing. They are so absorbed by their mindless, personalized feeds that it absolutely crushes their cultural and social vocabulary with other kids.

Meanwhile, the kids who don't have phones (and even a majority of the phone kids, once the phones are locked away) socialize and get along just fine and they have a perfectly good time doing good, old-fashioned activities together instead. They would all rather play football, make up their own board games, discuss dinosaurs and hell, some even read books for fun(!).

I hear a lot of talk about "lost generations", but the depressing truth is that we're all trapped in the same tar pit. Whether it's old people on facebook, millennials on twitter or the poor kids glued to tiktok, the only actual solution is to just walk away from it. To not engage.

To actually touch grass.

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Gemma Mason's avatar

Substack is social media, too. Do you think we should all try to move to our own websites?

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